As some of my friends might testify, I am kinda 'famous' for my discourses (some might say tirades) on relationships and what we should look for. At any given opportunity, I would happily launch into a lecture...And all this before I even got attached!
Recalling this list that I once made during my schoolgirl days on what I wanted in a boyfriend, realised that what I thought was once important eg. charming, tall, witty isn't all that essential if the key elements of the person's personality are not in place.
After 27 long years on this earth, have come to realise that if i had to summarize and drill the various qualities down to the 3 most impt things in finding our other halves, it would be:
- Shares the same beliefs - For me, he needs to be able to spur me on in growing and becoming a better person in Christ.
- Supportive- In addition to him being supportive of me, I need to want to support him in his ministry, through his trials and dreams etc.
- Chemistry - This is where the personal 'like factor' comes into play.
Let me qualify....I'm definitely not this love guru and I might not be utterly correct. As I journey along with Ed, I'm sure my views will continue to be reviewed and refined. What I do know though is that at the end of the day, our other half should complement and they should love us for who we are and see us for who we can be. Love is in spite of, not because of...
Currently reading this book which came highly recommended... something that put a smile to my face: Just as strength is a man's charm so charm is a woman's strength.
Will definitely continue to share more about I have learnt from this book so stay tuned!!
1 comment:
hee! Can I borrow the book once you're done with it? =)
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